Planning a wedding while you have a full-time job is stressful. Your stress levels take a bit of a hammering, especially if you are doing it all yourself.
Trying to please parents, future in-laws, yourself, and your fiancé may seem like an impossible task.
Many people also do not have any, or very little, experience in planning such big and important parties.
Try to look at alternative options that will cause the least amount of anxiety. One of these options could include a bespoke wedding location to get rid of the “needless nerves”.
If you are suffering from pre-wedding butterflies, that is normal. Signs of pre-wedding jitters and what you can do about them:
- Having trouble eating. It is important to eat for strength and energy. Try eating yoghurts, cheese and biscuits, or even marmite on toast. Also, if possible, avoid any heavy sugary treats.
- Sleeping problems. Anxiety brings racing thoughts, which tends to be exaggerated when your environment is quiet. Try elements that focus on relaxation, like putting on calming meditational music, or doing breathing exercises while thinking happy thoughts.
- Exercise. Nothing makes one feel better than exercise, whether it is yoga, meditation, walking or even a session at the gym. Any of these can take the edge off your anxiety. The best idea is to create a regular exercise schedule leading up to the wedding to keep those stresses to a minimum. It does help.
- Battling to concentrate. Get out that notebook and make a list, and tick off as you go. Do not try and be a hero and think you can remember everything
. You are going to forget important aspects which will then just stress you more. - Short-tempered. This is part of the anxiety process, so try to think before reacting and speak calmly.
- Make a checklist and include people you can trust to take on some of the responsibilities. If you worry about the day plan, then the checklist needs to include a timeline i.e. contacting various suppliers before the big day. Planning in advance and starting early with all your necessary arrangements will prevent unwanted anxiety and unwanted pressure.
- Change the tradition. No one says you have to have a big wedding. Remember it is not the size of the wedding that counts, but rather sharing it with those who mean the world to you.
